friends...
how do u define a friend?? and when do u cross the line between a friend, friend with benefits, and "more than friends"...???
to me... i'd consider a friend someone you can go to for anything, who cares about your feelings and your needs, who listens to you. Yeah, sometimes you may get into arguments and whatnot, but your friendship is more important and you can work everything out. a friend... is like your unofficial "partner," and to keep the relationship together, you BOTH have to work at it. One person just can't be there for the ride. A friend is honest, whether it be their opinion when you ask them "how do I look in this," or when you ask them, "does he/she love me back?" Among other things, thats what I consider a friend to be.
a friend with benefits...is a relationship with the simple foundation of sex. that's it. You talk to each other because you have a sexual relationship, you hang out with each other, probably only to have sex...sex sex sex! thats a friend with beenfits. Oh! and they MIGHT be there for you, but you can't always count on them. One day, your partner can just say, "i'm done...not interested." and be gone. You don't actually HAVE to have a connection, a bond, a friendship, nothing at all.
"more than friends" is, i guess, boyfriend and girlfriend. This is a
commitment to each other. When you are someone's boyfriend or girlfriend, THAT'S IT! it's ONLY about you two. So is it fair for a girl to be someone's girlfriend when he has another girl on the side that he's saying sweet things to and giving her promises of them being together...? are you reaaallly his girlfriend? When you are "more than friends," your foundation is the friendship. Your partner is someone that wants to be around you for you (ur mind, your conversations, your smile, your company, etc.)
my new questions are:
what happens when you begin to blur the lines between friends, friends with benefits, and "more than friends"??
what happens when one person is fed sooo many lies and promises and begins to love the other person and the liar breaks the heart??
and to that, i still cant figure out the answer....